Gender, in Love

In Simone de Beauvoir’s contrast of men and women within the context of love, she finds that women and men view and approach love differently. She suggests that women love unconditionally, oftentimes sacrificing their own happiness and dreams in exchange of security, and that they largely do so out of a sense of dependency. She bases her stance on the inherent nature of woman as a “second sex”, a complement to, but not equal of, man. In this hierarchy, love becomes a tool, used for capturing and containing a man, in a desperate attempt to find completion, security, and comfort.

 Having been born the inferior sex, women are predisposed to dependency upon men, first upon their fathers, then later, their husbands. In finding love, women recreate the safety and comforts of their youth. Due to this inherent dependency, even women who are able to financially support and provide security for themselves will often still seek love with a man because it’s simpler, and what’s expected of them. De Beauvoir states that “Even if they can choose independence, this road seems the most attractive to a majority of women: it is agonizing for a woman to assume responsibility for her life” and blames the fact that “everything incites her to follow the easy slopes: instead of being invited to fight her own way up, she is told that she has only to let herself slide and she will attain paradises of enchantment” (pg. 3).  Transversely, de Beauvoir writes that men seek union with women simply “to take possession of her”, stating that “they wish to integrate her into their existence and not to squander it entirely on her” (pg. 1). Men, being born “essential” creatures, are able to view themselves separately of others, as their existence is based in who they are, individually. Women, on the other hand, “being doomed to immanence cannot find self-realization in acts” (pg. 2). It is within these sociologically determined, gender-based limitations of dependency and independency that the self-actualization of women is impeded.

In the woman’s pursuit of love, her key to survival and comfort, she looks to find a man who will help her become “essential”, as “it is in men’s eyes that the woman believes she has finally found herself” (pg. 4). De Beauvoir finds that in this salvation, idolatry is conceived. As her savior and protector, man is exalted beyond his mortal status, and becomes a god in her eyes. This god, considered “fallen” due to his earthly nature and lack of true supremacy, is “not a man: he is a fraud”, according to de Beauvoir (pg. 5). In his righteous state, the man cannot falter, or show any human weakness, less he becomes a disappointment in his woman’s eyes. “If he makes a mistake or contradicts himself, she asserts that he is “not himself” and she makes a grievance of it” (pg. 5). In woman’s attempt to secure her man’s love, and therefore her own safety and happiness, she adorns him with love and gives all of herself to him. De Beauvoir writes that “In making herself a slave, she has found the surest means of enchaining him. She finds that women become “jailers” in their need for constant attention and affection, as “the absence of her lover is always torture” (pg. 6). In this paradox of divinity, men are both exalted and disparaged, simply for being human. This is brilliantly reflected in de Beauvoir’s statement “They would not seem to be dwarfs if they had not been asked to be giants” (pg. 5).

Genuine love is realized only when “founded on the mutual recognition of two liberties” and thereby possessing equal and reciprocated love (pg. 8). As de Beauvoir states, “Man has no need of the unconditional devotion he claims, nor of the idolatrous love that flatters his vanity” (pg. 8). In the self-realization of woman, as an individual, independent being, the shift from being considered the “second sex” is accomplished. Once this shift has occurred, the self-possessed woman will be able to love within her strength. Rather than continue to have her salvation depend on “this despotic free being that has made her and can instantly destroy her” the woman who loves in her own strength is whole, regardless of man or his love (pg. 8). As such, she is able to complement a man with her love, and form a union based on mutual respect and admiration.

 While Simone de Beauvoir’s article on love and dependency provides a clear bias towards the oppressive societal implications surrounding gender differences in love and devotion, it also presents many valid arguments on behalf of men, in opposition to the inherent nature of the woman in love. In today’s society, more women find themselves loving in their strength, no longer victims to the patriarchal influences of de Beauvoir’s time. This is presented among both lesbian relationships and in more traditional unions, and showcases equality of strength and devotion in love. In closing, de Beauvoir’s hope that “love will become for her, as for a man, a source of life and not of mortal danger” is slowly coming to realization, strengthening our world in the balanced state of the most powerful force on earth.

The Love Within

Sonnets have been written, songs have been sung, temples have been erected, and lives have been taken, all in the name of love. Long before there was a term for the strong emotions we felt towards others, love existed. In today’s society, the term is used to cover an array of feelings, and is applied casually towards objects or concepts, with little consideration for the immense power it possesses. In examining the various types of love, it is eros, romantic love, that displays the obsessive, physical response that our brains have when triggered by this powerful emotion.

In a study of 17 people who reported to be happily in love, Anthropologist Helen Fisher found, through MRI scanning, that in these 17 people there was activity found in the base of the brain, more specifically in the ventral tegmental area. This activity included stimulation of cells responsible for the release of dopamine, and was found in the reward system of the brain. This suggests that when we feel love for someone, deep, romantic love, our body has a chemical response. We, as humans, are born with certain innate processes. We have cravings and desires that register far below our thought processes. These same processes are triggered by the brain’s response to romantic love, thereby proving that love is not just an emotional response, but a chemical reaction in the brain that elicits longing and desire. Fisher found that ultimately, “Romantic love is an obsession”, that, “It possesses you. You lose your sense of self. You can’t stop thinking about another human being”. In cases of unreciprocated love, she finds that our brain even utilizes its ability to calculate gains and losses to further understand “what went wrong”. So, the obsessed lover not only feels intense love, albeit rejected, but is calculating their losses, and, Fisher states, is “engulfed with feelings of romantic love…feeling deep attachment to this individual”.

In her extensive research, Fisher has “come to think that romantic love is a drive, a basic mating drive”. She goes on to clarify that this is separate from the sexual drive that leads to mating, that instead, this “Romantic love enables you to focus your mating energy on just one at a time, conserve your mating energy, and start the mating process with this single individual”. In her explanation of this driving, obsessive emotion, she relates her findings to the ideals of Plato, agreeing that love is an addiction. She finds that the tolerance we build that causes us to need to see them more, the withdrawals we experience when we are separated from them, and the eventual relapse we experience after seemingly moving beyond the obsession, are “all of the characteristics of addiction”. She concludes this subject with the statement that “…indeed, romantic love is one of the most addictive substances on Earth”.

While the obsessive and addictive nature of love relates to all humans, regardless of gender or race, the way that we feel intimacy is dictated by our sociological past. Since the dawn of civilization, the patriarchal nature of most societies led to different conceptions regarding intimacy and closeness. Fisher found that women find intimacy in face-to-face contact, utilizing a tool called the “anchoring gaze”, that evolved “from millions of years of holding that baby in front of your face, cajoling it, reprimanding it, educating it with words”. Conversely, she found that men used that positioning when facing their enemies, and that they receive intimacy in a side-by-side position, much like they sat alongside friends millions of years ago, and still do today. It’s true that many men feel threatened, or uneasy, when locked in a stare with a woman they love, or really, with anyone. They are less accustomed to working in face-to-face positions, even in today’s society. Women, on the other hand, still use this physical arrangement in their interactions with their children, and often with each other. This concept, while simple in explanation, is feasible in its application to the gender differences found in intimacy.

Much like Fisher states in her closing thoughts, our challenge in love is not in the discovering of it, as “love is in us. It’s deeply imbedded in the brain”. Rather, “Our challenge is to understand each other”, to consider the gender differences that we face in the intimacy that leads to romantic love, and to cultivate that intimacy in our desire to love and be loved in return.

Cultivating Love

If it is true that man is controlled by his desire to find his soul’s mate, then Aristophanes’ Myth provides the proof that his quest is not in vain. When we refer to our other halves, our lovers and spouses, it is with the notion that without them we are not whole. Our duality forms a complete union, our desires satisfied in the reflection of another. This intense need for completion, according to Aristophanes, derived from the separation of the whole self, an act of punishment by Zeus, for the mutinous crimes of the children on earth. Outside of mythology, we know that there are many factors that lead us in search of eros, or romantic love. Whether it is biology, lust, or the emotional connection we feel with another, a large majority of our lives is spent either fostering or finding romantic love.

The mortal children in Aristophanes’ Myth, those of the sun, earth, and moon, are whole beings, rounded in their bond with another. They know nothing of separation or yearning for another, and as such are able to focus their attention on their abilities. While they held the same emotional attachments that their eventual offspring would, the fact that they were already together as one meant that they didn’t have to go in search of another to find completion. Today, we are born separate, and utilize eros as choice, emotion, and passion to find and maintain love. Much like current society, the status among the children was striated. The children of the sun, the double male union, held the top position of status, and were heralded by Aristophanes as the “best of boys and youths, because they have the most manly nature”. These homosexual men, who in today’s society are viewed as less virile or manly, became the statesmen of society, the elite. They were considered “…valiant and manly, and have a manly countenance”.  The children of the earth were the double female bonds, and held the middle ground in status. Their mentality was that of homosexual women, and were strong in their wholeness. The children of the moon, disparaged for their androgynous union of man and woman, were considered the lowest class, the abnormal, adulterous in nature. In our society, this union would be the common male and female connection, which is held now as the most ‘normal’ form. Regardless of the different natures of the people of society then versus now, the same underlying need for duality to attain wholeness exists,

In Aristophanes’ Myth, the children anger Zeus in their attempt to overthrow the gods. In their wholeness, Aristophanes found that “Terrible was their might and strength”. After careful consideration, Zeus decided to punish the children for their actions by cutting them in half, separating them from their other halves. To kill them off would mean no offers of sacrifice or worship for the gods, and by separating them, their population would double, and their strength divided by half. After having Appollo mend the people, Zeus demanded he leave them facing their lost halves to keep them humble in reminder of their mutiny. Only when the children begin to die, after becoming obsessed with finding a mate and neglecting themselves in the process, does Zeus move their genitalia to the front so that they can procreate and find pleasure in mating that would sate their needs, allowing them to eat and function. This state of being would become the changed foundation of human life. No longer would people be rounded, complete entities. Now, they would have to seek out completeness in the love of another.

In likeness, people find comfort and understanding. To “embrace that which is like them” is to appreciate the qualities that shape who they are. In Aristophanes’ Myth, he refers to the male unions, homosexual in nature after their separation, as originating from attraction to the attributes that define their manhood. They were “slices of the original man”, and are drawn to that image and likeness, as a result. The same is true for the female unions, also homosexual in nature, in that they too seek their resemblance in a mate. Aristophanes clarifies that while some people may find these homosexual unions shameless, they are in fact “valiant” and “do not act thus from any want of shame”. It is in the nature of companionship and carnal desire that we seek out eros. Much like the children in Aristophanes’ Myth, when we lose love, or whatever form of connection we have with another person, we generally return to our search. Our biological desires add to this in our reproductive years, but can be controlled by choice. However, our emotional needs are what drive this concept into a life-long quest, as we seek a companion for the inevitable road to death.

It is in our ability to find and cultivate love that we discover wholeness. The rounding of our character occurs in the balance of duality. Love is the glue that hold these bonds together, temporarily or beyond death. Regardless of the type of love, or the driving force behind it, most people are predestined to seek out the companionship of others.  For it is in love that we are able to maintain the bonds necessary to promote continued human life.

 

Philosophy on Marriage

Love is a relative term, its type dictated by intention. Some people consider their affection for coffee to be a form of love, while others would be appalled at such a platonic use for the complex and vital condition. When it comes to romantic love, or love that lends itself to marriage or union, the intentions behind such bonds ultimately determine the success of the unions. In the story The Top and Ball, the naturally doomed fate of obsessive love, based solely on attraction, is displayed in the top’s desperate attempt to woo the ball.

Marriage based on proximity is not a novel concept. Many societies are limited in their populations, and those that don’t require pre-arranged marriages still insist that unions be within their society. This same proximal constraint is what originally prompts the top to ask the ball to marry it. In the limitations set beyond their control, the top is forced to choose from his immediate surroundings. So, when the top feels compelled to marry the ball, he is doing so out of a natural need to connect. He does not know this object, or have any real affection for it, nor has he considered what it means to love something forever, even beyond its years of beauty and usefulness. Therefore, the top does not love the ball, as it convinces itself it does when it realizes that it cannot have it, rather, it becomes obsessed with the idea of aligning itself with an object of beauty, that is considered desirable.

Much like the top has confused desire for love, the ball has a warped idea of what is important in a mate. When it refuses to even respond to the proposal from the top, the ball gives no consideration to the top’s qualities, outside of its physical appearance, whatsoever. Due to its own ego, the ball decides to pursue marriage with a sparrow, as it saw a better opportunity for itself in a nest. Later, when the ball and top meet in the dust bin, the ball refers to the top as “one of my own class”. The ball, no longer a desirable and attractive object, now considers the top to be of the same status as itself. Its attitude changed from the elevated sense of self-worth that prevented it from considering marriage to the top all those years ago.

When considering the intentions behind a marriage, both the top and the ball have distorted views of what constitutes love. The ball longs for status, and holds itself above others. It feels that its composition and beauty garners a better life than that which a top in a toy box can provide. The top, also possessing a delusional sense of what love should be, longs for that which is unattainable, primarily because it is unattainable. Neither object has any understanding of what constitutes love, or what the true purpose of marriage is.

Without mutual affection, respect, and understanding of what is important in love and life, there is little hope for a successful marriage. In our vanity and obsessive tendencies, it is easy to become wrapped up in the prospect of love and marriage, without exploring the truths behind the ideals. All beauty fades, all purposes wane, and unions that are created with only physical and material bonds will eventually fall through the weak foundations they are built upon.

On Love and Friendship

Love, friendship, and marriage; three basic bonding elements of human nature, whose ever-changing, symbiotic relationships provide the type of connections that Venn Diagram Lovers dream of. Each exists independent of the others, yet when combined, they form an intensely strong bond. They provide the foundations for life, forming human connections that yield and shape our lives. Love friendship, and marriage can be studied collectively or individually, with many of the same attributes applying to each bond, as well as, individual traits within each type. To explore the relationship between these bonds, one must first determine what makes for success in each type. It is necessary to explore what constitutes prosperity of love, friendship, and marriage, individually.

Love is an invisible force that can be both a source of great power, and one of great demise. With so many different variations and types of love it would seem impossible to find common ground between them all. From familial love, to spousal love, to the love of material objects or ideas, each bond made in the name of love is built upon one, or more, of five founding elements: kindness, compassion, respect, admiration, and attraction. While it is not necessary that all love meets all of these elemental requirements, to have no compassion, respect, admiration for, or kindness towards, an object or person is not to love, or have love for them. Love can be requited or unrequited, and still exist, but it cannot be truly successful if only one-sided. It can be both unconditional, as in the love of a parent, or conditional, as in the puppy love of high school sweethearts. Love generally strives for longevity, and usually requires a good temperament and tons of patience for everlasting realization.

Regardless of the type, there are common themes present in bonds based on love. A general sense of compassion and kindness towards someone, or something, that is considered to be loved, is necessary in order to ensure that the well-being of the loved is cared for. Respect for and towards loved ones is vital to the bond, as well. In mutual respect, love finds peace and harmony. Honesty and faithfulness are also extremely important, in terms of a physical and emotional love, such as the type between lovers and spouses. Remaining true to one’s lover is a marker of self-control, and shows great respect towards their partner. Communication is the greatest tool for ensuring honesty is present within a bond of love. Honesty also is crucial in many types of love. The love between a parent and child, spouses, and other friends and family members, is best built upon honesty and openness.

Friendship is the bonding of two, or more, people through common interests, occupations, religion, sports, networking, and other environmental factors. When we meet someone that we find interesting, it is natural to want to learn more about that person. When we begin to devote time and effort towards discovering another person, we are creating a relationship. These non-romantic relationships lead to bonds that are built upon mutual respect, admiration, and interest.

                Friendship requires many of the same aspects that love does in order to be successful. While most friendships don’t require the amount of time and effort a romantic relationship would, there are still basic needs that must be met. Honesty and openness are crucial to a successful friendship. If a person cannot depend on their friends to level with them on important issues, then there is little hope that the bond will remain very strong between them. In addition to honesty and openness, trust and faithfulness are also important within a friendship. To be a friend means to support and protect another, whether they are around or not. It is not a conditional bond, or one that is easily forgotten in the absence of the other. Rather, it is a bond that transcends distance, time, and event.

                In today’s age of technology and social media, it is quite possible for friendships to develop between people who have not physically met. With video chat, text messaging, and a world of connections at our fingertips, virtual reality is as prominent as physical reality. While tangible contact is generally necessary to further develop a romantic relationship, the value of friendship increases with time and effort, not with physical interaction. The idea that we can network virtually with someone, regardless of our proximity, facilitates many opportunities for communication, within friendships and relationships, that were not previously accessible.

When love and friendship blend well, it often leads to marriage. While these two traits are important for establishing the initial relationship that leads to marriage, there are three crucial aspects of marriage which allow for success. Compassion, for oneself and especially one’s spouse, is vital to a successful marriage. A sense of compassion fills a marriage with peace and love. Another important aspect of a successful marriage is respect. With any relationship, respect is a common need. To respect your mate is to love them, to respect your vows of commitment is to honor your marriage. Without respect, a marriage becomes unbalanced, with heaviness overpowering lightness. Lastly, attraction is necessary for a successful marriage. This can be physical, mental, or spiritual attraction, or a combination of elements. It is in the attraction we feel towards another person that the basis for love and marriage form.

Marriages built upon these three fundamental requirements are strong, and unyielding to the pressures of life. They form an unbreakable bond, that states in its inception, that “no man shall put asunder”. However, there are some instances where marriages should end. Unfortunately, not all marriages are built upon love and respect. History tells us that arranged marriages, forced marriages, and marriages of opportunity have always been around, and many societies still support these types of marriages. While it is the custom of many of these societies, and therefore accepted, in the cases of marital abuse, neglect, or emotional distress, I feel that the marriage should be dissolved. Human rights beg us to disallow such abuse and control.

Love, friendship, and marriage are among the most coveted goals of human interaction. At a very young age, we begin to form bonds of mutual admiration and respect among our peers and families. We learn that through interaction with others our lives are enhanced. We discover that hardships and difficulties are easier to face with an ally and a support system. Most importantly, we realize that love and friendship add to our existence, and make our time on earth more fulfilling.

Carving Carver

                                                          
     In the forward to the selected works of Raymond Carver, found in Ann Charter’s “The Story and its Writer”, Carver is quoted as saying “If the words are heavy with the writer’s own
unbridled emotions, or if they are imprecise and inaccurate for some other reason- if the words are in any way blurred-the reader’s eyes will slide right over them and nothing will be achieved” (Charters 167). This statement speaks volumes to the enormous impact that the entire process of editing has on writers and their artistic process. The natural editing that takes place within a writer, after receiving criticism on his work, imposes limits on his voice, limits that are based on internal fears and realized faults. Yet when an outside source directly edits and alters someone’s art, there is removal of significant information, and restructuring of intent and motivation. This paper seeks to explore the impact that Gordon Lish’s editing had on the expressive nature of Raymond Carver’s published work, discover whether or not Carver, under the opinion and direction of Lish, accepted limitations on his own writing, and argue that Lish sought to promote his own agenda in his merciless stripping of Carver’s prose.
     When we consider the direct, minimalist style of acclaimed authors like Hemingway and McCarthy, it is natural to assume that few edits are imposed by others, as the writing is purposely ambiguous and sparse, requiring the reader’s participation in the rounding of the story. In tune with Hemingway’s “Iceberg Theory” of keeping the bulk of the distracting and superfluous details below the surface, their presence is felt, without dilution of the focus. Raymond Carver, by process of reduction from his editor, was labeled, and even considered himself, a minimalist writer. However, Charles McGrath, Raymond Carver’s editor at the New Yorker from 1982 until his death in 1988, supports the ideal that Lish’s heavy editorial hand reformed Carver’s true style in his work. He surmised in his piece, Editor Author“I felt that he had somehow broken through and refashioned himself as an even greater writer: no longer a minimalist but something of a maximalist” (McGrath).
     While reading Carver’s edited work, it is easy for the reader to assume that he is, in fact, a minimalist writer. This is well illustrated in his story What We Talk About When We Talk About Love. Through the dialogue of two couples discussing love over pre-dinner drinks, a great deal of emotion and raw honesty is presented. Carver doesn’t dilute the intense scene with his own thoughts and feelings on love, nor does he cloud the conversation with extra information about the characters. Rather, it is through the discourse of the couples, mixed with the internal dialogue of the narrator, that an emotional response from the reader is garnered. However, while it can be argued that details dilute, in exploring the differences between Carver’s original work and that which was published, there is a great deal of eloquent and purposeful writing lost.
    In exploration of the three separate pieces that tell the story published as What We Talk About When We Talk About Love”, there is visible proof of the removal of key information, details that shape the individual characters and give motivation for their stances within the conversation taking place. As the story is whittled down from “Beginners” into the edited,
published version, whole paragraphs and conversations are marked through. This extreme editing transforms the focus of the story from an intense and visceral conversation about love, with the key character Mel detailing an account of its healing power through a beautiful story about an elderly couple who were patients of his, to an ambiguous, and seemingly bitter, monologue about this same couple’s affection for one another. In this edited version, Mel attempts to emphasize the fact that he and the others know nothing of love, as they can’t comprehend the love this elderly couple felt towards one another. Although the story remains interesting, and the argument can be made that it provokes more thought and input from the reader in its minimal form, the fact that the focus and motivation for the story is drastically altered, by critical ideals of Gordon Lish, cannot be ignored.
     The alteration of Carver’s work by Lish was not limited to one or two stories, nor did it serve only to impact his work post-production, rather, his critique and suggestion eventually altered Carver’s personal perspective, thereby infusing his own ideals into Carver’s process. In Kathleen Westfall Shute’s piece “On “The Bath” and “A Small, Good Thing”, she examines how Lish’s editing reduced the emotional connection between the reader and author, a
connection found present in Carver’s original work, “A Small, Good Thing”, yet absent from the edited version, “The Bath”. She finds that as the “‘submerged population’ begins to surface” in A Small, Good Thing”, “moving out from the preoccupations of self to become aware of and even feel kinship to the larger community”, the reader begins to connect to the story, giving them a sense of inclusion, and providing for an emotional response to the plight of the characters (Shute 1619). In contrast, Shute finds the sole act of the father taking a bath, to symbolically “wash all thought from him as though it were sin”, “the closest we come to insight, epiphany” within the stripped down version of A Small, Good Thingtitled “The Bath (Shute 1618). This illuminates the loss that both the reader and writer assume in the wake of Lish’s editing. Therefore, one is left to presume that Lish’s goal in his work was to serve his own ego, by reshaping Carver’s work into something he could consider his own.
     In exploring the dynamic within Raymond Carver and Gordon Lish’s professional
relationship, it is imperative that their friendship also be considered. The amity between Carver and Lish heavily impacted the timing and nature of Carver’s response to Lish’s edited version of his collection of stories “What We Talk About When We Talk About Love”. In an article called Rough Crossings, published in The New Yorker in 2007, Simon Armitage tells of a letter Carver sent Lish, regarding the halt of release of the edited collection, while exploring the concept that prior to the letter, “Carver seemed only to encourage and accept Lish’s ministrations” (Armitage). He states that Carver felt that “if the book went forward…he feared he might never write again, if he stopped it, he feared losing Lish’s love and friendship”
(Armitage). It can be ascertained from this information that Carver was aware of the detriment
Lish’s editing had on his work, yet allowed for it due to his fear of loss of friendship. Because he had experienced such a difficult past, one filled with alcoholism, poverty, and abuse, he feared that losing his editor, his friend, his ticket to the comforts and freedoms that writing afforded him, would render a return to that previous life.
     To write is to let the mind breathe, eliminating it of the stifling conditions and pressures placed upon it by others. When the voice is used, it provides a gift, an offering of thought and observation. When that thought or observation is altered or filtered by others, there is loss in translation. When this alteration effectively warps the expression of the writer or when it serves to benefit the editor, rather than shape the writing to enhance the experience of the reader, then the argument that editing is disadvantageous to the production of Literature, from both the perspective of the writer and reader, is founded. With consideration to the specific relationship between Raymond Carver and his editor and friend Gordon Lish, it is easily deduced that Carver’s genius expression was greatly reduced and effectively altered by this relationship, and that Lish sought only to benefit himself in his editorial process. 
Works Cited

Armitage, Simon. “Rough Crossings.” The New Yorker. http://www.newyorker.com. 2007

Carver, Raymond. “Beginners”. 1981 Collected Stories. New York: Library of America. 2009.

 Carver, Raymond, and Gordon Lish. ““Beginners,” Edited.” The New Yorker. 
 www.newyorker.com2007. 

Charters, Ann. “The Story and Its Writer.” 7th Edition. Bedford/St. Martin’s: Boston. 2007

McGrath, Charles. “I, Editor Author”. New York Times. 2007.

Shute, Kathleen Westfall. “On “The Bath” and “A Small, Good Thing.” The Story and Its Writer. Ann Charters Edition. St. Martin’s: Boston. 2003.

The Sound of Music: Western Media Influence  in Post-War Asian Literature

 

Western Media has heavily impacted the Eastern World for decades with references to European culture found throughout modern Eastern Media. Many films and other pieces of art and music from the West would find their way across the world and into Asia, reshaping the people’s views of what life was like across the world. In 1965 The Sound of Music was released world-wide. The film was a dramatic account of pre-war Austria as the Nazis were taking over Europe. Its music, cinematic beauty, enduring hope, and use of a prominent Austrian family caught the attention of audiences around the globe. Its goal was to illuminate the dichotomy of good versus evil.  An American-made film designed to entertain viewers while revealing the effects of World War II and Nazi Rule on the people of Austria and Europe at large. It was a film which would garner sympathy for the Austrians and provide viewers with a foreshadowing of the horrendous rule of Nazi Germany. With images of war and destruction still lingering in their thoughts, The Sound of Music recalled a story of how beautiful and privileged Austrian life was before the war and how changed Europe would become after the war.

In Japan, over a hundred thousand civilians had been killed when the United States dropped atomic bombs on the cities of Nagasaki and Hiroshima. The Japanese, along with the Italians and the Germans, had lost the war losing thousands of troops in the process and their land had been decimated and filled with radiation. Following the war, they had a large uphill battle ahead of them. Reformation of their land would require assistance from the United States and its allies which would greatly impact their eastern lifestyles. In the political unrest that remained and with the spread of Communism, The Sound of Music provided a glimpse into the revered life of pre-war Austrians. It also gave viewers, especially those too young to remember life before World War II, a heavily Americanized version of the privilege and finery of wealthy, white Europeans. With little real knowledge about the war due to the Japanese Government restraining information, this film, which was loved and watched all over Japan, was the only understanding they had. The hope of persevering displayed against a beautiful landscape with light overcoming darkness, gave them a world to where they could escape. The love shown for the film and the representation of it in Japanese literature and art suggests that a large majority of people were sympathetic towards the very people they had fought against. As though they sided with these people who their government sought to eliminate instead of supporting their government’s goal of global domination. A film, made by the country that had destroyed their land with atomic bombs, starring wealthy, white, European actors telling the exaggerated story of one family’s escape from Nazi rule had found its niche among the oppressed citizens of Japan who were under reconstruction at the hands and influence of the United States Government.

Haruki Murakami’s novel Kafka on the Shore, an Oedipal-themed tale of a young man on a mission to find his estranged mother, and thereby find himself, intertwines between reality and an alternate world, one where dreams come to life and grave choices are made. One world represents the light, it occurs during the day, while Kafka is awake, and correlates to good, while the dark world exists in his dreams, and is where evil is conducted. Much like Kafka on the Shore, The Sound of Music highlights the line between good and evil while telling the story of one character’s loss of innocence and determination to find love. Kafka, the main character in Murakami’s novel, is in search of his mother and her love. He embarks on a life-changing journey, rebuking the fate laid out before him by his father. His character seeks the same courage to follow his heart that the main character, Maria, in The Sound of Music seeks when she embarks on her journey to become the governess to the von Trapp children. She sings, “I’m a stream of the things I am seeking, I am seeking the courage I lack” (Andrews). Murakami’s character utilizes a split in his personality, that he refers to as The Boy Named Crow, to convince himself to be strong and not overcome by fear. Murakami also ties Kafka in with Maria’s lyric that “strength lies in nights of peaceful slumber” (Andrews). Until Kafka finds his mother and discovers the truth about why she abandoned him, his half-filled soul will remain open to the evils of night and he will remain weakened by his inability to find strength in peaceful slumber.

The culmination of the story occurs when Kafka finds himself in a magical world, one where the past and present exist on the same plane, but where reality cannot be found nor can it find Kafka. Within this beautiful “place too small to be called a town” where “a small stream running alongside a road” with “beautiful clear water, gurgles pleasantly”, Kafka finds his escape from life and the peace he needs to sort his mind (Murakami 416-417). When he enters the cabin within this place he finds an old TV set. Upon turning it on he discovers The Sound of Music is playing. He recalls it being one of the few movies he’d seen as a child and was taken to see it by his teacher. As Kafka watches he finds himself enamored with the film once again. He recalls the memory of seeing it as one of few that were good. He mentions the fact that Captain von Trapp is a “difficult, uptight father”, undoubtedly reminding him of his own father, and he ponders how much different his life would have been had he had a woman like Maria in it (Murakami 419). The film represents a perfect world to Kafka, one with blooming flowers and beautiful, kind women who are motherly and loving. Instead of using an authentic Japanese film with native actresses Murakami wanted to show the reader what Kafka considered to be good, what most Japanese citizens considered to be good, and what was good could be found in the lovely world of Caucasian Europe. Maria stands as a stark opposition to his own mother. Maria was caring and provided love and discipline for children who were not even hers, while Kafka’s biological mother had abandoned him, leaving him to the misplaced wrath of his jilted father. Kafka ponders the purpose of this particular film in this particular place, asking, “Why in the world do I have to watch The Sound of Music right now? Why that movie?”, missing out on the symbolism of the event (Murakami 420). Much like his conversation with the two soldiers when the tall one said, “Memories can be a great symbol too,” the film represents good memories from long ago (Murakami 403). Kafka doesn’t quite understand that this film, one that tells of a dream world, where beautiful white people are able to flee an oppressive government, where women are motherly and loving, a film that shows good ultimately beating evil, is a direct representation of the life Kafka dreamed of as a young boy when he first viewed the film.

Kafka awakens after a deep sleep with the theme song from the film, “Edelweiss”, playing in his head. The lyrics in the song “Edelweiss” tell of the precious national flower of Austria. It is described as “small and white, clean and bright”, much like his heavenly surroundings are in this land of in-between. Although the song wasn’t actually as popular in Austria as the film depicts, the general sense of loyalty to one’s homeland and the never-ending holdover that all which is white and clean is pure, are heavily represented in the few lyrics. In this place of serenity and beauty Kafka is reminded of his good memories as he continues his search for love. Upon entering the kitchen, where he hears noises, Kafka finds his deceased, theorized mother, currently taking the form of a 15-year-old girl, standing there. She tells Kafka, “…if you need me, I’ll be here.” These words are foreign to Kafka especially coming from someone presumed to be his mother. When this form takes on the older version of Miss Saeki, Kafka states that he’s “come here to meet you one more time”, as though he understands that this is a moment of closure for him (Murakami 423). Miss Saeki goes on to explain that she did indeed leave behind someone very important whom she should have taken with her. She asks for forgiveness and tells Kafka that she loves him. This depiction of his mother as caring and doting, much like Maria, brings Kafka full circle. He has found his love in finding his mother and sister, and his courage in facing his fate head-on and alone. Kafka finally leaves the enchanted place to start his new, changed life just as the von Trapp family does in the film.

Halfway across the continent of Asia sat India, previously held by the British. India had fought against Japan, and the Axis, to retain their land during World War II. By then end of the war, after having profited greatly from their Allied involvement, India had grown exponentially and was able to gain its freedom from the United Kingdom in 1947. The civilian people of India were heavily influenced by the British for decades before their independence was won, and references to the reverence of whiteness would be found in art and literature for many years to come.

In the novel The God of Small Things, by Arundhati Roy, a set of fraternal twins, belonging to an upper-middle class family in India, experience a life-altering event when their half-British cousin Sophie Mol comes to visit. Prior to the visit that would forever change the lives of the characters within the story a string of events would occur that would line up to shape the fate of Sophie Mol. Much like in Kafka on the Shore, the film The Sound of Music is alluded to in The God of Small Things as a symbol of the dichotomy of good versus evil.

The twins, and especially the narrator of the story, the female twin named Rahel, are fascinated with the English, and long to live in a world where they have fair skin, colorful features, and the acceptance and respect that comes with being of European descent. Rahel is obsessed with the physical attributes of Sophie Mol because these differences separate the two cousins. Sophie Mol’s light eyes, skin and hair are considered more beautiful and desirable than Rahel’s contrasting dark features. Since the twins have never met Sophie Mol, they relate her to the European characters in the film The Sound of Music, which they’ve now seen twice, as they adore the film and the soundtrack.

The day before Sophie Mol and her mother are due to arrive, the twins are taken to Cochin to see “The Sound of Music” for a third time. Rahel sees the film as magic, at one point saying that the cinema hall had “a magical, Sound of Music smell…” (Roy 94). Estha, her twin brother, loves the film’s songs so much that when they begin he can’t stop himself from singing aloud even when he realizes that he’s bothering the other moviegoers. This action would result in a sexual assault on Estha, as he is forced to go in the hall and sing. While alone in the hall, an Orangedrink salesman abuses him. This is yet another showcase of the contrast of good versus evil, with the contrast of the goodness and purity of the film that Estha has immersed himself into versus the evil reality of his current situation.

During the time period when The Sound of Music was released the characters in The God of Small Things were controlled by Love Laws that dictated who people could love and have sexual relations with, and class was a major factor in that dictation. The dark skinned Parvans were among the lowest class and were considered to be ‘Untouchables’, meaning that people of higher class should not interact with them, especially sexually. The twins’ mother falls in love with a Parvan man and is forbidden to be with him due to the Love Laws. This forbidden relationship is similar to the growing love between the eldest von Trapp daughter and a young Nazi soldier-in-training. As the teenagers’ relationship grows, the young soldier begins to shun the von Trapp girl because her father refuses to join the regime. While the von Trapps are of high class in society, their political position has left a divide between the people of Austria and makes relationships between those sides taboo.

The twins’ uncle, Chacko, has a daughter, Sophie Mol, with his English ex-wife. Chacko greatly admires his ex-wife’s European features and feels a sense of great pride in having a light skinned daughter. Chacko still calls his ex-wife his wife because he holds tight to the hope that they will get back together. However, in discussion with his mother about marrying someone who came from those who conquered them he responds that “…war that has made us adore our conquerors and despise ourselves” (Roy 52). Chacko understands that he is a product of this very notion and sees the twins’ obsession with The Sound of Music as an “extended exercise in Anglophilia” (Roy 54).

In “A Reader’s Guide”, a supplemental interview with the novel’s author, Roy explains that she, just like the twins, would travel to Cochin to see The Sound of Music when it was playing. She states that she made the two-hour journey to view the film seven times. She also admits that she didn’t like the movie, but that watching it “was an institution, a thing we did”, which tells the readers of the weight of influence the film had on everyone (Roy 328). In post-war, newly independent India, a film illuminating the colonial holdover of the high regard for the British would heavily impact young children searching for some understanding of that which is opposite of themselves. In the magical world of Hollywood these young children of India could lose themselves in the music and goodness of the film, and dream of a life where they are the revered.

In the novels Kafka on the Shore and The God of Small Things, the film The Sound of Music is portrayed, providing key information to the effects the film had on the post-war Eastern mindset. Both novels contain a strong sense of dichotomy in relation to evil and goodness, just like the film. The common use of such a profound depiction of pre-war life and a sense of innocence in the West against the starkly different post-war life and loss of innocence in the East suggests that the emotions prevalent in the 1960s were felt world-wide and were universal in understanding. In looking more deeply into the usage of Western influence, especially that of The Sound of Music, in literature from post-war Asia we are able to better understand the emotional volatility that was a common theme. Whether one was in the newly independent India, released from British Rule a decade prior and still heavily influenced by the British culture, or one was from war-stricken Japan, recently released of occupation by American forces in their attempt to reconstruct the country, The Sound of Music represented the goodness, beauty, and magic of a life of white privilege and European reverence. It told the story of escape and survival from evil, while displaying the glory and prominence associated with upper class European stature.  Ideals from this film were used to contrast the great differences among the Western and Eastern Cultures, to showcase the effects of Nazi rule on Europeans, and to explore the interminable dichotomy of good vs evil.

 

Works    Cited:

 

Murakami, Haruki. Kafka on the Shore. London: Vintage, 2005. Print.

 

Roy, Arundhati. The God of Small Things. New York: Random House, 1997. Print.

 

Rodgers, Richard, Oscar Hammerstein, Julie Andrews, Bill Lee, and Charmain Carr. The Sound of Music Original Soundtrack. RCA Victor/Legacy, 1965. Original Score.

Crafting Memories: An exploration of success in memoir.

 

In the exploration of self, the memoir is crafted, both as a form of artistic expression and as a release of authentic voice. Criteria for success in a memoir stems from the general notion that a reader will gain as much self-realization and insight as the writer portrays, through a related sense of growth and experience. With consideration of the parameters of a good memoir, as detailed in differing, yet not contrasting, ways throughout William Zinsser’s “Introduction to Inventing the Truth” and Henry Louis Gates, Jr.’s “Lifting the Veil”, Mark Salzman’s memoir Lost in Place successfully fulfills the requirements laid forth in Zinsser’s work, as bell hook’s memoir Bone Black finds success in meeting the stipulations presented by Gates, Jr.. These drastically different memoirs each find accomplishment in their individual approach, and are supported by the comparative criteria of Gates, Jr. and Zinsser.

When a writer seeks to bring his or her life to story, there are foundations of truth and history that must be strategically developed in a way that allows for proper craftsmanship of the memoir. This task is easily accomplished in Mark Salzman’s crafting of his memoir, Lost in Place. From the opening words, a heartfelt and honest dedication to the father who so intrinsically shaped his life, to the emancipated, adult response to his father at the end of his memoir when he stated that “…not everything works out the way you want it to. You learn to live with it though”, Salzman flawlessly builds his memoir on solid foundations of self-actualization blended with a developing sense of reality (Salzman, M. pg. 268-269).

As with all writing, crafting a memoir involves a release of emotive thought. Yet unlike other forms of prose, it demands introspective research that ultimately influences the resulting work in a personal, and oftentimes private, way. William Zinsser wrote that “Memoir is the best search mechanism that writers are given”, a concept that is realized throughout Salzman’s memoir (Zinsser, W. pg. 6). From his early, and incredibly astute, understanding that his father’s “angst created an opening for {him}”, an opportunity to carve out an identity of my own…all I had to do was become happy”, to his eventual realization that, regardless of his ability to successfully extract his own identity from that of his father’s, he had inherited many of the traits and pessimistic patterns that he tried to escape, Salzman effectively explores his sense of self through a myriad of personal quests (Salzman, pg. 20). Yet despite his ever-changing pursuit of happiness, and the various avenues he utilized in his search for enlightenment, it was his heritage, his pre-determined destiny, to become a man shaped by the values and ideals set forth by his father.

The more effortlessly a personal story flows, the less distracted a reader becomes by minute details that support the memory, but not the memoir. This intentional structuring of pertinent information is what makes a good memoir easy and pleasant to read. Through proper development of story, engagement and interest are easily maintained, leaving the reader free to insert their own experiences into their understanding of the work, and allowing nostalgia to draw them in. In addition to the crafting of the memoir, this expression of art is vital to its success, as described by Zinsser in his statement that “Memoir is how we try to make sense of who we are, who we once were, and what values and heritage shaped us” (Zinsser, W. pg. 6). Lost in Place quickly, and easily, establishes a solid structure that is rounded by the relatable and entertaining memories of Salzman’s quest for self-realization.

In a comparative, yet paradoxically parallel, exploration of success in the memoir, Henry Louis Gates, Jr. also calls for use of heritage, to give an authentic voice to those who share in a writer’s plight, yet don’t have the means or ability to express themselves.  This use of heritage is brilliantly illustrated in bell hooks’ memoir Bone Black. hooks constructs her memoir in chronological order, carrying the reader through each experience that has ultimately created her “struggle to create self and identity distinct from and yet inclusive of the world around me” (hooks, b., pg. xi). From exquisitely detailed portraits of the various women who have influenced and shaped her worldly vision, through which hooks beautifully illuminates the defining cultural accents discovered in each, to the earnest use of “irony and wit and self-deprecation, and also by being honest, or revelatory, about pain and fear”, hooks weaves her experiences into the fabric of her heritage, creating a work of art that transcends prose and portrait (Louis Gates Jr., pg. 109).

As hooks carries a reader through the life of a southern, black girl, she inundates her memories with her realized adult understanding of the societal oppression that shaped her experiences. Throughout her youth, hooks experienced life from the inside of a glass bottle, able to see the other side through the muddled and distorted lens well enough to know that she was trapped, walled in by her ethnicity. What begins as a youthful reflection of heritage through traditional cultural references, evolves into an exceedingly adult understanding of graver issues, such as segregation and racial discord. This darkness, that hooks comes to own in her unabashedly raw portrayal of self, perfectly executes the “unfolding of ego” that Louis Gates Jr. calls for in a memoir, and fulfils the requirement that the writer “deflect your presence…to move yourself to the periphery” (Louis Gates, Jr., pg. 109). Through intricate connections between hooks’ personal experiences and those of her larger community, past and present, she fashions a network of memories that follow her ascent from youth to adulthood, while demonstrating the internal descent she experienced as a result of the suppressive influences that altered her existence.

If inclusion of heritage and well-developed craftsmanship quantify a good memoir, as suggested by Zinsser in “Introduction…”, then Bone Black exceeds the requirements. Yet it is not in this realization that her memoir finds success, rather it is in the vulnerability of hooks’ writing, and the telling of a “new collective history” by giving voice to a “historically oppressed or narratively excluded group”, that Bone Black revels in artistic glory (Louis Gates Jr., pg. 111). As she recalls the many protections she had to take to guard herself against prejudice and hate, hooks garners empathy from readers who have established a deep connection with her over the course of the memoir, and a sense of comradery from those who have lived through the same hardships and have shared in the injustice. Louis Gates Jr. speaks of the need for this connection in his piece, “Lifting the Veil”, stating, “I think it’s very important for people in marginalized groups to tell multi-layered stories that address the problems of their oppression…their story has to be something that works like art. It has to work on several narrative levels” (Louis Gates, Jr., pg. 112). Bone Black accomplishes just that, in a deeply powerful and evocative way. hooks’ summation of story gives light to her bone black darkness in the release of her authentic voice, and the representation it provides any reader who has experienced oppression, whether that be of spirit, ability, freedoms, and rights, or all these and more.

The true art of a well-crafted memoir is found in the connection between reader and writer. The ability to construct a narrative based on real-life experiences and memories is difficult to achieve. Yet even upon accomplishment of this arduous task, success has not been established until some link is made between the storyteller and the audience. As defined by both Zinsser and Gates, Jr., success in a memoir constitutes a combination of healthy self-deprecation, a collective sense of heritage and past, and an authentic voice, one that entices relatability, while maintaining true originality. Bone Black and Lost in Place accomplish these, and many other, requirements in their search for acceptance, each finding success in the crafting of their memories.

 

   Works Cited

 

hooks, bell. Bone Black: Memories of Girlhood. New York: Henry Holt, 1996.

Salzman, Mark. Lost in Place: Growing Up Absurd in Suburbia. New York: Random House, 1995.

Zinsser, William. Inventing the Truth: The Art and Craft of Memoir. “Introduction to Inventing the Truth”. Boston & New York: Mariner Books, Houghton Mifflin, 1998.

Zinsser, William. Inventing the Truth: The Art and Craft of Memoir. Excerpt: Gates, Jr., Henry Louis. “Lifting the Veil”. Boston & New York: Mariner Books, Houghton Mifflin, 1998.

Salvation: An exploration of Epicureanism and Stoicism

 

Fear is the ultimate motivator. Nothing forces a person to change or adapt quite like fear. Religious thought is based primarily upon the fear of death, and finds everlasting life, through salvation obtained after death, as a resolution. Conversely, philosophical thought searches for a solution to release the anxiety associated with the consuming fear of death, in order to live a more peaceful and joyous life on earth. Stoicism and Epicureanism, two distinct forms of philosophy, each seek to find ultimate peace in life, by eliminating the anxiety associated with the fear of death.

Epicureanism calls for the quelling of anxiety through disassociation with death. As stated in the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, “Death, Epicurus insists, is nothing to us, since while we exist, our death is not, and when death occurs, we do not exist” (Epicureanism, 7). He even suggests that death has an “empty name”, and thoughts of it can lead to an anxiety that consumes the mind. In order to stop the anxiety, one must learn to free themselves of all that is unnecessary. This, in theory, seems an appropriate response to the problem. By freeing ourselves of desire, we release ourselves from the burdens of life, and therefore can focus our thoughts, instead, on the joys of life. However, Epicurus’ lack of acceptance of reality negates this theory, in that it provides an unrealistic approach to happiness. By disallowing the notion that there are outside influences that shape our destiny, ones that are beyond our control, this philosophy sets an unattainable goal, and ultimately adds to the anxiety we feel.

Stoicism, conversely, finds control over anxiety in a delicate balance of action, between one’s dedication to living a life free of unnecessary attachments, and their reaction to the inevitable complications that arise along the way. Stoicism suggests that “…you should not be psychologically subject to anything- manipulated and moved by it…”, therefore, we should not allow death to consume our lives, rather, we should accept that it is a part of reality, and focus on life instead (Stoicism, 15). When we are in control of our faculties, we can better deal with the natural occurrences that alter our paths towards happiness. While this approach is better suited as a way of life, due to its firmer grasp on reality, its assessment that “all passions involve an element of false-judgement” can be intimidating for the person who is seeking release of anxiety through realization of wisdom and self-control. If we, as humans, are designed to be irrational in our passions, and therefore perpetually unable to control them, then how do we find mastery over the impulses that drive us towards anxiety?

Salvation

Through introspective contemplation, the human psyche’s need for grounding in a volatile world is discovered. Those who seek meaning, and ponder their position in the grand realm, find specialized paths for discovery among the various frameworks of religion. Within the context of many religions, and with primary focus on Hindu and Hebrew thought, salvation, serving as a form of redemption from the absence of life upon death, serves as the driving force behind the beliefs and practices.

In both Hinduism and Judaism, emphasis is placed on present action and thought, with focus geared towards leading an earthly life free of immoral behavior and desire, one deserving of salvation.  As the Encyclopedia of Religion states, “…the idea is that human beings …may achieve an ultimately good state either by their own efforts”, as in the case of Hinduism, “or through the intervention of some divine power”, suggested by the inclusion of a soul into Heaven, as is found in Judaism (Encyclopedia of Religion 8526). With salvation as the ultimate goal, both Hinduism and Judaism seek attainment through piety, release of earthly desires, and fixed observances aimed to please their supreme being, or bring them closer to a state of Union.

Despite the shared goal of salvation, Hindu thought and Hebrew thought vary greatly in their consideration, and approach, of life everlasting. In Hinduism, Union is attained upon the realization that the self is eternal, and one with the universe. “The Yoga Sutras of Patanali” states that “the mastery of one in Union extends from the finest atomic particle to the greatest infinity”, evidencing the thought that God is not a supreme being, but rather all that is, including the self (1.40). By contrast, Judaism finds everlasting life through favor, and views the self as a separate entity from the supreme being that is God, with ultimate reality realized upon their inclusion into Heaven. Additionally, the necessity of salvation greatly differs between the two religions. The Encyclopedia of Religion states that “Indian systems ascribe a humanity’s ultimate troubles to ignorance” whereas Hebrew doctrine finds original sin to be the catalyst for the need for salvation (Encyclopedia of Religion 8526). While the motives for salvation differ, the humanity at the heart of both thought systems speaks to the morality and goodness of man.

Although the ideals centered in each religion, and the criteria for salvation, are drastically different between Hinduism and Judaism, each ritual, every connection made or released, serves a purpose on the path to ultimate reality. Hindu belief, that through Union man becomes one with God, is built upon the notion that god is all-encompassing, has no distinct form, is as much a catalyst for creation as it is a product, and therefore is found in everything. The ideal that salvation is gained by becoming one with this ultimate spirit dictates the need for release of all attachment to earthly desires and concerns. Eternal life is gained through cycles of increased realization, with release of self as the key to salvation.  In contrast, Hebrew belief is centered around one God, the almighty Father, a fixed and definitive being, the creator of all life. The concept of God, or god, in each religion serves to establish the criteria for salvation. The idea that an individual, uncontested supernatural God, a light designed to guide humanity towards good and away from evil, is the key to everlasting life, demands favor from this supreme being for salvation. This favor is given in return for a life of piety and abidance by God’s Law, and through rituals designed to “open up lines of communication with the god” (Encyclopedia of Religion 8527-8528).

In their differing, yet not opposing, manner, both Hinduism and Judaism offer paths towards everlasting life. Through ritual, release of earthly attachment, and the following of God’s Law, salvation is gained. With this salvation comes the promise of life everlasting, a secured future in a state of being that eclipses life on earth.

Works Cited

Jones, Lindsay, Mircea Eliade, and Charles J. Adams. “Soteriology.” Encyclopedia of Religion. 2005. Print.

BonGiovanni, translator. “The Threads of Union.” The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali. 2002. Online.